Use these when things are light and friendly — not mid-argument. Keep your tone warm, short, and specific.
Text #1 — “Spark & Invite”
Creates an easy opening for him to lead with a plan.
When to use: early vibe, after a good date, or when messages feel flat.
“I found a tiny taco place with insane reviews. Want to pick the night?”
Why it works: You set the “what,” he chooses the “how.” Leadership without pressure.
Text #2 — “Inside Joke Callback”
Connects to shared moments, building warmth and continuity.
When to use: after a playful exchange or a mini-adventure together.
“Your chai recommendation ruined me. Now I judge every café by it 😄 Round 2 this week?”
Why it works: Nostalgia + invitation = momentum.
Text #3 — “Quick Read, Your Call”
Signals respect for his judgment and makes contributing feel natural.
When to use: decisions with 2–3 good options.
“Need a gut check: rooftop or jazz bar Friday? You choose, I’m in.”
Why it works: Invites contribution (men bond through being effective).
Rules of thumb (so he actually chases)
- Short > long: Make room for him to respond with initiative.
- Invite, don’t demand: “Pick the night?” beats “You need to plan.”
- Match pace: If he’s warm but busy, keep your energy calm & positive.
- Reward initiative: Appreciate when he leads — it locks in the pattern.
Common mistakes
- Stacking texts when he’s slow to reply — creates pressure.
- Vague flirting with no clear invitation.
- Trying to “logic” him into interest — attraction is felt, not argued.
FAQs
What if he doesn’t respond?
Wait. If he circles back later, respond warmly and re-invite once. If inconsistency continues, keep standards and reduce availability.
Can I use these after No Contact?
Yes — start with the lightest option (#1 or #3), then escalate to planning if he responds positively.
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