1) The real reasons he goes cold
- Timing clash: You text when he’s busy; momentum dies.
- Energy mismatch: Long paragraphs vs. short replies.
- No direction: Conversation loops with no plan to meet.
- Pressure vibe: Hidden tests, guilt hooks, or FAQ-style interrogations.
2) The fix (simple framework)
Reset → Invite → Reward
Reset: pause 24–48h (if he’s cold), reset tone.
Invite: short, specific prompt that lets him choose the “how.”
Reward: appreciate initiative; this locks in the behavior.
Reset: pause 24–48h (if he’s cold), reset tone.
Invite: short, specific prompt that lets him choose the “how.”
Reward: appreciate initiative; this locks in the behavior.
3) Copy-&-paste texts that re-warm
“Quick pick?”
“Friday vibe: tacos or jazz bar? Your call.”
“Callback + Plan”
“Your burger spot spoiled me. Want to pick our round 2?”
“Low-pressure reset”
“Last week got hectic on my side. Pick a night and I’ll show up hungry 😄”
4) Pacing rules that keep it warm
- Short > long: Leave space for him to lean in.
- Invite > interrogate: 1 ask, 2 options, let him choose.
- Plan > ping: Move to real plans quickly; texts don’t replace experiences.
5) If it stays cold
Mirror pace. Keep standards. Re-invite once, then step back. Warmth without chasing = highest odds of genuine return.
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