Don’t overweigh a single message. Look for consistent patterns across a week or two.
1) Engagement signals (he’s invested)
- Predictable replies: Not always instant, but steady windows you can count on.
- Follow-up questions: He expands topics instead of closing them.
- Shares details unprompted: Work, plans, family, wins/losses — you’re inside the story.
- Callbacks: He references your inside jokes or previous dates.
2) Initiative signals (he makes it happen)
- Suggests concrete plans: Time/place ideas instead of vague “sometime.”
- Locks logistics: Who’s driving, tickets, reservations — he removes friction.
- Checks in: “How did that interview go?” He remembers what matters to you.
3) Emotional signals (it feels safe & warm)
- Playful teasing + respect: Fun without crossing your boundaries.
- Supportive tone: He steadies the vibe when you’re stressed.
- Specific compliments: Not just looks; effort, taste, humor.
How to respond (to grow the spark)
Invite a choice
“Wednesday works. Pizza or Thai? Your pick.”
Reward initiative
“Love how you plan things — makes my week easier.”
Callback + plan
“Your coffee rec ruined me 😄 Want to choose our next spot?”
Green vs. Yellow vs. Red
- Green: steady replies + clear plans → keep inviting choices.
- Yellow: flirty but flaky → suggest one specific plan; if no action, mirror pace.
- Red: disrespect, hot-cold games, boundary pushing → step back and keep standards high.
Mini self-check (fast quiz)
Score 1 point each (past 10–14 days):
- He initiated at least twice.
- He suggested or locked a plan.
- He referenced a previous convo/date.
- He asked a genuine follow-up question.
3–4 points: Solid interest. 1–2: Keep it light; invite a clear choice. 0: Don’t chase — reset and protect your energy.
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