When He Says “I Don’t Love You Anymore”

Step 1: Stabilize (don’t debate the statement)

Resisting, arguing, or interrogating makes him double down. Your first move is calm containment — show you can handle heavy emotions without exploding or chasing.

Step 2: Remove pressure, raise safety

• Keep interactions short, kind, and useful (no heavy talks on the hour).
• Do one visible shared-life win daily (a nagging task, logistics, support for kids).
• Maintain a warm tone; avoid reassurance fishing or ultimatums.

Step 3: Reset the emotional baseline

Love rarely returns in a storm. Aim for a rhythm of low-stakes positives (laughs, brief walks, cooperative tasks) so his nervous system can relax around you again.

Show, Don’t Tell

Don’t ask him to feel differently — let him experience you differently:

• From “tell me you love me” → a light, shared moment that feels good now.
• From “let’s talk about us” → side-by-side activity (walk, errands) with zero pressure.
• From big promises → consistent micro-changes he can see without effort.
• From defense → reflect impact first: “I get why that hurt.”

Consistency Over Time

One great day won’t flip a switch. What does? Predictable safety week after week:

1. Time: reliable schedules; early notice for changes.
2. Energy: steady, non-reactive presence (no spikes, no disappearances).
3. Systems: simple guardrails (shared calendar, habits, boundaries) that prevent old patterns.

What to say when he repeats it

“I’m not going to push you. I’m focusing on making our home feel calmer and kinder. If you’re open later, I’d like to take a walk and just enjoy the evening together.”