The pillars of marriage wellness
- Trust: built by consistent honesty and follow-through.
- Intimacy: created by safety, small moments, and playfulness.
- Teamwork: sharing burdens and wins as “us.”
- Repair: not avoiding fights but resolving them quickly and kindly.
Daily habits that keep love alive
- One warm ritual daily (a hug, check-in, or walk).
- Weekly review: what worked, what needs adjustment.
- Gratitude in small doses: “Thanks for making coffee.”
- Shared novelty: try one new thing a month together.
Quick tip: Wellness is rhythm, not rescue. Aim for 80% small habits instead of 20% dramatic efforts.
Show, Don’t Tell
Don’t promise wellness — live it:
- Lower your reactivity in tough moments.
- Keep your word on small agreements.
- Add lightness: humor, smiles, gentle touch.
Consistency Over Time
Wellness isn’t about one weekend away — it’s about a baseline that feels good daily.
- Micro-check-ins: 5 minutes daily, no phones.
- Quarterly resets: revisit routines, stress points, and dreams.
- Steady rituals: couple time becomes non-negotiable, like brushing teeth.
If the relationship feels off-balance: start small. Add one new habit before trying to fix everything at once.
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