1) Safety
Calm conflict, stable pacing, and clear expectations. No guessing games.
2) Admiration
Specific appreciation for effort and follow-through — not generic praise.
3) Play
Lightness and shared novelty keep attraction rising over time.
What to say
Plan choice: “Saturday’s yours — hiking or tacos? You decide.”
Reinforce: “Thanks for locking the plan. I love how you make things happen.”
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